It didn’t matter that it was just a pack of instant noodle.

What matters most is this bowl of Kimchi Instant Noodle was prepared and cooked lovingly by Darcy who can’t cook for nuts — but aheeemm, he can yak yak yak alot, giving endless instuctions and opinions even when i didn’t ask for them while i cook, y’know! grrr — to save his own life or the children’s!

Perfect with the kimchi which i’ve been saving since 2 weeks ago!

p.s : i’m a convert. i’m now a korean food lover!

An early morning tweet from the gf got me thinking.

Her exact tweets, “What happen in the middle that change love to resentment?”, “When does love stop? When it ends to resentment n irritation? What happen in the middle?”.

So what happens in the middle?

A relationship expert i am not. But for certain topics, i do have my few cents to contribute. It doesn’t help that i find relationship talks very interesting! :)

So, really.. what happens in the middle?

Fights.

Silly small stuff arguments.

Silly brainless, inconsiderate teasing/jesting that pisses the partner off.

Repetitive of undesirable, unlikeable behaviour despite many reminders.

Lack of love for the children.

Lack of responsibility, ambition, motherly/fatherly figure.

Lack of tenderness, passion, forgiveness and communication.

When things are taken for granted.

Heck, even lack of compliments and I-Love-Yous also a factor!

Onto a more serious stuff, affairs and lies, gambling, alcohol and domestic violence.

(that’s all i could think of for now, definitely more if i were to think some more but enough lah yeah?)

And after the resentment and irritation, the ultimate good-bye, in my humble opinion, is when one party stops giving in. That will be the breakdown point, where everything goes the other way round instead of moving forward.

Going into a relationship is easy. Maintaining it is hard. But the hardest? Gotta be ‘getting out’ – something that i once read, accidentally, which i thought about and realized, how true!

Recently, Darcy and i watched this quite-hilarious-movie, Date Night by Steve Carell and Tina Fey. And guess what? It does hit a note or 2 for us. Grin. I’d be lying if i say… everything feels the same as when we first started. Me thinks no couple of 1 decade will be able to say that. But being a couple of 1 decade does give an edge to say, newly acquainted couples though – we know each other’s shits so well! (actually, i bet there’ll be more to come!) :P

So very well, but we still manage to bear with it. Isn’t that the most wonderful thing ever? (think picking nose, farting smelliest farts ever, never flush toilet etc) Heh.

Most importantly, after 1 decade, we not only have 爱 情 (ai qing), we have something else too, something that i can’t quite put into words.. No matter how much we detest each other after a misunderstanding or unhappiness, we still do things for each other, quietly. It’s never quite, ‘forget it! Who cares about him/her‘ kinda attitude – perhaps we are too used each other! :Pp

(oh crap.. honestly, i don’t really get what i’m trying to tell!)

But like i mentioned above, if one day, if one of us decides to give up (due to the above cited reasons), that will be the end of us. Seriously. Nothing to do with incompatibility or whatever. But this, when either one of us stops giving in. In our case, it’d be the hubby because most of the time, Darcy gives in more :P

Oh, you know what is amazing?

For our recent 12 days’ holiday (just the 2 of us), we had never once fought. Not even once! Seriously, i’m not sure if that’s a good thing or bad thing? Hahahahaa… The thing is whenever we travel, we always fight.. even if it’s just 1 time, over some petty stuff, at least 1 fight is a MUST,  since Year 1!

So how is it possible that we didn’t fight this one time? ppssst : we kinda discuss over it y’know! Hahahahaaha.

Is it the age?

Has our relationship became so dull???????

We didn’t irritate each other enough?

Or simply, we’ve known each other well enough to learn how to accommodate and to give in?

Boy, i sure hope it’s the latter! :)

Many men don’t know this but really, it doesn’t take a mountain to move us, especially a simple one like me.

All we need sometimes, is just a bear-y hug and a kiss on the forehead before a pinch on the cheek or a slap on the backside to tell how naughty i’ve been. Heh.

So.

The middle part. If you are it now, do talk it out, work it out… before one party throws in the towel……

Before it’s too late.

p.s : just one of those strange and rare days.. blabbering away to whatever comes to mind. ignore the incoherence :P

On a Wednesday morning  …….

(exchanges through sms)

hb : Got something want to tell you ….

me : yes?

(i don’t know about you but totally hate this sort of sentence! it just sounds like bad news -_-)

hb : Wanted to tell you i love you but so long then reply. So not telling now.

me : Haha! Got reply ok. Even called you

(yes, i ultra gan chiong queen. when i receive such sms, i will not be able to sit still until i know what’s up!)

me : I also got something to tell you.

hb : Late reply no use. What you want to tell.

me : U’re a pig, piggiest pig of all.

One evening when the husband was flipping the papers…

hb : let’s go Club Med again!

me : *eyes widened* serious?????? u sure???? – so not hb to suggest a holiday!

hb : yeah.

me : WHEN??? why so suddenly? u enjoyed the previous trip a lot huh?? *joy and hope kicked in*

hb : there… *points to the article in the newspaper*

me : *eyes rolled and rolled* $%^*&#@~$!!!!!!!!!!!

hb : *rolling on the floor laughing!*

What the ……………..

I’m so seeing my gynae next year!!!!