Oct 112013

2 years of courtship.

12 years of marriage.

It’s that time of the year again. :)

Having been together for sooooooooo long, we know each other inside out, outside in. Now i truly understand why experts claimed that couples who can brave the first 5 years together, will stay together. But of course, not entirely true because in our case, i think we needed at least 10 years to be so comfortable that during arguments, we no longer shout at each other but simply ignore, walk away and iron things out when we are all calmed and missed each other a tiny bit. Sometimes, we don’t even have to sort things out… because we have came to a very important conclusion that is, once a while, we just gotta let go and agree to disagree.

I still remember those fiery tempers of ours in the beginning of the years. So dramatic. AIYO! Hahahaha! (but that’s mostly me to be honest, hohohoho :P)

Anniversary used to be an event where the husband needed to plan and surprised me with everything. That was Phase 1 for you. Then, Phase 2 came, where i will also need to put in effort because of the lack-off from the husband. Now? It all boils down to me, the planning, the surprise.. heck, i don’t think i’d even throw a fit if the husband ever forgets! YES.. that’s how zen i am now. *grin* I think i’ve grown up! Like finally.. hurhurhurhur…

This year, i’ve arranged for a dinner date tomorrow night because i know the husband prefers the weekend.. and then, i’ve something else up my sleeves too! ;)



All because Darcy mentioned that he missed my cheesecake, chocolate cheesecake to be more precise, not once, not twice, but more than thrice!

I made an effort to prepare the crust in advance and hid it in the freezer. All i needed to do today was to whip up the filling and do the decoration (the inspiration came when the cake was in the oven! cos i didn’t plan on decorating in the first place. heh), after an enjoyable brunch date with Corsage and her little girl. Quite a breeze i must say.. except for the chilling part which needs no effort but very time consuming — which also means, no nice photography. By the time the cake is ready, it’d be 9pm and really, what photography at 9pm?!? (edited : i managed to do some decent shots after all. Wheeeeee!)

A soulmate :

It’s like a best friend but more. It’s the one person in the world who knows you better than anyone else. That someone who makes you a better person. No, actually they don’t make you a better person. You do that by yourself because they inspire you. A soulmate is someone you carry with you forever. It’s one person who knew you, accepted you and believed in you before anyone else did or when no one else would. And no matter what happens, you’ll always love them and nothing could ever change that.

~ Dawson’s Creek

Of course, that’s not saying that we have good times every single day. Life is not a bed of roses, realistically speaking. We have many ups and downs, we have braved many storms and tsunamis, we have many times hated each other to the core, we argued, we fought, we bickered. But, we have also laughed, grinned cheekily, teased, adored each other so much that no words could ever express it, we have and are still doing house chores together, just the 2 of us — i find it rather romantic. haha! — we make holidays fun! (i think he’s the best holiday partner i’ll ever have because not because we’re alike, but more because we know when to give and when to take. :)) Yup, we make it a point to go away for holiday together every year.. just the 2 of us minus kids, oh boy… so fun!

Some say, the best partner is someone who’s different than what you are. Well, that’s Darcy and i for you. We are, as different as chalk and cheese. At many points of time in my life, i used to think.. things will never work out for us because we are really very very different. Different hobby, different personality, different character, different passion, different parenting style… different everything! But as we mature (or in this case, i mature), i realized that the real key to a perfect relationship/marriage is not to find someone who is alike but to learn how to blend in, to give and to take, and to keep quiet when you need to (but can retaliate at a later stage when the other party has cooled down, hahaaha!).

Importantly, the husband adores (ahem, because i’m really quite adorable) and loves (ahem, because i’m rather loveable too. muaaahahahahahaa!) me to bits and pieces. He has never stopped loving me from day 1 and he is someone who will never give me up. I know it’s kinda bold for me to say that because we’ll never know what’s gonna happen tomorrow… but somehow, i just know? Hurhurhur. He makes effort to paint my life with colours. My life for the past 14 years has been outrageously colourful. I don’t remember having a single dull day whenever i’m with Darcy. He’s fun to be with. He’s funny, he’s got sense of humour and he loves teasing me. He doesn’t look it, but he is. He’s just painfully shy with outsiders and friends. Heh!

But right now, i’m pissed at him for saying things that he shouldn’t have just because he has nothing nice to say. Grrrrrrrrrr!

Happy 12th Anniversary, gip. Hope you are loving the cake, otherwise.. no more cheesecake for you! HA!


Chocolate Cheesecake


  • Oreo Cookies 140g, without the cream [i had to use digestive since i didn't have any oreos at home but do use Oreos, more visually pleasing]
  • Butter, melted 70g

Finely ground the biscuit. Pour warm butter over biscuit. Toss well to coat mixture with butter. Press firmly into an even layer on the bottom of pan. Freeze for at least half an hour.


  • 500g cream cheese
  • 75g castor sugar
  • 2 tbsp cornstarch
  • 2 eggs
  • 150ml whipping cream
  • 55% chocolate, melted
  • 2 tbsp Baileys, optional


Beat cream cheese and sugar until creamy. Add eggs one at a time, mixing until just incorporated before adding in the cornstarch. Gradually add cream, chocolate and baileys. Be careful not to over mix because we want to incorporate as little air as possible (to prevent cracking).

Bake* at 150C for 60-75 minutes or till the edge of filling is set and center is slightly wobbly. Cool on rack for 5 minutes.


  • 1 cup sour cream
  • 2 tbsp sugar
  • 2 tbsp milk

Using hand, whisk together (very gently to prevent air bubbles) sour cream, sugar, and coconut milk in a bowl, then spread on top of cheesecake and bake 5 minutes at 150C.

Cool cheesecake completely in pan on rack, about 1-2 hours.

Cover and chill until cold, for at least 4 hours.


Verdict : everyone loves the cake very much! complimented it non-stop…. but methinks, it’s because i haven’t baked any cheesecake for like.. 2 years?! HEHEHE!

Oct 102012

To my partner of 11 years or more,

I’m sorry, for not being the wife you’ve always wanted.

But what i can assure you is that you will always have fresh clothes to wear daily, 1-2 homemade meals a day, on good days, with dessert as well as your night cap. Also, that the house will always be neater and tidier than when we had a helper (though not necessarily as clean) and i will try my very best to be home whenever you’re home.

As for your children, like you, will always be fed with good, (most times) healthy, nutritious food. I might not be the perfect tutor who can coach them with their school work but what i can promise you is that they will always be active, healthy, outgoing, happy and most importantly, they will be good kids with good characters and personalities. But errrmm, as for their embarrassing glutton-ish table manners, i’m still working on it.

As for myself, i promise to be fit & healthy (physically and mentally) and not burden you with unnecessary medical fee. So, thrice a week of Hot Vinyasa Yoga is a must for me. *wink*

Once, a wise man shared, In order to have a happy family, you must first ensure that the wife is happy.

Happy wife = happy mommy = happy children = happy family.

To be honest, I can’t agree more (actually i realized this years ago but it’s good to have a man to affirm my thought). :P

Happy 11th Anniversary.


Sep 202012

They’ve got a secret recipe for an eternal bliss marriage!

Here you go :

(1) Say “I Love You” at least once a day
(2) Have romantic dinner at least twice a month
(3) Love-making at least 3 times a week
(4) Kiss at least 4 times a day
(5) Go on a trip at least twice a year


Shite, looks like we are in deep deep deep shit, for we do neither of the above! 0.O